Changing Attitudes Can Create A Positive Future From A Negative Past
With shaking hands, Carla recounted the story of the car accident that had affected her life both emotionally and physically. As tears rolled down her face, Carla told me how her home and work life had been affected – and it was clear that depression was setting in. Carla and I were meeting in my office for the first time – and in front of me sat a stressed, anxious woman whose future was about to be severely marred because of what had happened in the past. When Carla spoke about the crash, she recounted it as though it had happened three weeks ago. And yet, my next question revealed that Carla’s car accident had actually occurred five years ago. With an uncanny accuracy, she recalled the whole ordeal. During the first year after the collision Carla had suffered from torn ligaments in her shoulder, which had prevented her from sleeping properly at night. However, even when the shoulder healed, the mental misery continued unabated – and now it was really taking its toll on Carla’s life. With a young family, Carla needed to be able to drive her two eldest children to their after-school activities. And while Carla did indeed get behind the wheel for her children’s sake, every day was filled with dread as she played the accident over and over again in her mind. Before the accident, Carla had been enthusiastic about life and had a shared vision with her husband about the family’s future. However, in the aftermath of the accident she had lost all her confidence. Eventually, she had confessed to me that she had been persuaded to seek compensation for her injuries – and sobbing, she told me that litigation had taken three years out of her life. “The suggestion that I sue was against my instincts, but I believed that the money would come in useful, especially for my children. “But the experience has just left me feeling emotionally scarred. For three years, my whole life was taken up with answering legal questions and having my life dissected. Even though I have now received the compensation money, I just can’t be bothered to spend it.” Carla nodded when I suggested that perhaps the experience had left her feeling that she had sold her soul – and that the money she had been awarded felt “dirty”. Gently, I suggested that it was now time for Carla to “let go” of the past in order for her to “live” in the future rather than merely exist. Using a blend of hypnotherapy and neuro linguistic programming techniques, I took Carla into a relaxed meditative state in which she was able to look at the accident and the subsequent events from a larger perspective. In this state, Carla began to see that there had been some advantages in her life as a result of the accident. For example, instead of playing the “Superwoman” role, Carla had been forced to learn to accept help and support from her family and friends. She had also learned compassion – and a greater understanding that mental anguish can be as severely debilitating as physical pain. Recognising that she had gained from the experience was helping Carla to put the last five years into a different context. And even though she was still in a deeply relaxed state, I could see that the heavily etched lines on Carla’s face were already beginning to recede. Carla continued with the psycho-dynamic exercise, and under my direction, she chose to imagine a conversation taking place between herself and the car driver who had caused her suffering. After expressing her anger and torment, Carla then reached the point where she could choose to forgive the driver and accept what had happened. Thanking him for the lessons she had received through the accident, Carla – in her mind – asked the driver to leave, watching him leave the room and close the door firmly behind him. When Carla returned to waking reality, her face was beaming. Smiling, she said that she felt free for the first time since the accident – and even more importantly, she knew that she was now able to create a future that was liberated from the pain of the past. Olivia Stefanino is a leadership development consultant and executive coach, who works with blue chip organisations, SMEs and individuals. To find out more – and to download your free e-booklet “128 ways to harness your personal power”, visit http://www.beyourownguru.com © Olivia Stefanino 2004 |
Other Horse Racing Articles
Gaming in Kansas City, Missouri; Las Vegas style Texas Hold-em Poker and Slots Going to Kansas City? Kansas City calls itself the “City of Fountains” and with good reason. It has more fountains than any city except Rome, and talk about competing with European cities, KC ranks second only to Paris in the number of miles of its grand Boulevards.Located near the geographical center of the country, you’ll find KC to be ...How to Develop a Spiritual Success Partner 1. Identify a woman who is “like minded,” who has the attitude and exudes the philosophy that you like and feel drawn to… someone who is on the same wavelength spiritually.2. Ask her if she will be your Spiritual Success partner, in other words, you will support each other’s SPIRIT.3. Determine who will make the phone call and at w ...Problem Solving in Barrel Racing Part I Running Past the First BarrelYour first barrel is a different set up and turn then the other two. At the barrel you are coming in at a full out run from the start. You also turn this barrel at a different angle than the others. This barrel is called the “money barrel” because if you knock this barrel, your run is over with, if you ...Are You Blind? Spiritual Blindness is Not Permanent!I was in the airport coming home from a Women’s conference in Oregon I spoke at, and noticed a blind man sitting across from me. He was content to just sit and wait for his plane to come. He had a walking cane folded up in his hands and I knew he needed it to help him walk and n ...Prayer Requests - Which of These 11 Troubles Would You Like to End? Everyone faces unique set of challenges. The good news is that for every challenge, there is a spiritual solution.So I thought I should share a few things from the experiences of some of my readers.* Some have written to me asking for specific prayer points to release abundance and prosperity.* Others would like to know why ...Orlando, FL Vacations When you take a vacation, one of the most important things to do before you go is plan all the different things you will see and do. Most of the time, the first thing people think of when they think of Orlando, Florida they think of Disneyworld, Epcot, Magic Kingdom, MGM Studio, or Animal Kingdom. But there is more to Orlando, Florida than meets ...Churchill Downs and Historic Horse Racing The history of Equestrian Sports in America goes back generations and there is no greater horse racing event then the Kentucky Derby at Churchill Downs in Louisville, KY. It is horse racing at its finest. The annual running of the Kentucky Derby has a long history of the greatest horse race in human history.The buildings still look like s ...Unusual Types of Sports Betting You probably know that you can go online to participate in betting on sports like baseball, basketball and football. Almost all sports betting websites offer opportunities to wager on the outcome of these major types of games. However, if major sports aren't your favorite--or if you're interested in expanding your betting activities--you may wan ...Hialeah Park Hialeah is a unique city in many respects. For starters, the city ranks number one on the list of American cities where Spanish is most spoken – as a matter of fact, 92% of the residents of Hialeah speak Spanish as a first language (so if you want to practice your Spanish, it isn’t a bad place to go). The high Hispanic population means there a ...Best Snorkeling Destinations Snorkeling is a universal sport and is enjoyed wherever there is clear still water abundant in marine flora and fauna. Some maritime tourist spots have become fan favorites, such as the beaches of the Hawaii Islands, the Caribbean, Florida and California.The entire Great Barrier Reef in Australia is a snorkeler’s heaven. Even the coasts o ...Manfred Goes to the Country In nineteen forty five, World War II was declared officially over. Displaced German soldiers were being rounded up and homeless families had to find new places to live. Marianne, ten, and her brother Manfred, two and a half, were sent along with their newly widowed mother to a farm on the outskirts of Munich.The large dairy farm, one th ...Run, Pony, Run - Pony Express “Away across the endless prairie a black speck appears against the sky. It is plain that it moves. Well, I should think so! ” wrote Mark Twain in 1860 as a stagecoach traveler.“In a second or two it becomes a horse and rider, rising and falling, rising and falling – sweeping toward us nearer and nearer. The flutter of hoofs comes faintly ...What is Online Sports Betting? Online sports betting is just what the name suggests, you bet on a sport of your choice through any of the many sports betting websites on the Internet. The bet can be about any aspect of the game and the odds are provided by the website. Online sports betting has fast gained popularity among the global masses so much so that it is estimated tha ...What You Need To Know About Running Running today is an energetic form of exercise and a very popular sport. Many run because they enjoy it or as part of a fitness plan. It’s come a long way from being the fastest way of getting from Point A to Point B on foot. From a means of transport, to a means to good health or fame and glory!How many kinds of running are there? Jogg ...Places to visit in Albany, New York If you're looking to take a different kind of family vacation, why not try Albany, Capital Region of upstate New York. It's a great place full of side trips, history, shopping and more, all within a radius of about 50 miles.Downtown Albany When you're in Albany NY itself, you'll notice that it's a great mix of old and new city ...The Kentucky State Fair Loves Horses The state of Kentucky, well-known for its horse breeding holds the World Championship Horse Show at its State Fair held in Louisville. Kentucky is big on horses and it shows with the World Championship held along with the Quarter horse Show and the Miniature Horse Show. The kids will probably love to check that one out to get a look at the cut ...Market Availability Of Lawn Tractors Market Availability Of Lawn TractorsThere are many manufacturers of lawn tractors . If you go to market for purchasing a lawn tractor you will be flooded with offers for sale and then there will be more offers from the markets like eBay and Amezon.com. It is really a difficult choice to make. However if you have your pri ...A Guide to Common Soccer Betting Terms Accumulator. Sometimes called a parlay. A bet where the winnings from one bet are placed on the next bet. The winnings accumulate, giving a large theoretical return. In reality, not very profitable as it only takes one to lose and your whole bet loses.Arbitrage. A combination of bets which guarantees a theoretical risk free ...Lent - A Spiritual Point Of View The period of Lent is the beginning of a shift of energy on the planet. From a Spiritual standpoint, during that time people tend to release or surrender things that they no longer want in their lives, or things that have too much negative control in their lives. In doing this, you make room for the things you do want, from a much higher vibra ...Win by Losing - Laying bets on a Horse Racing System Betting exchanges are a recent introduction into the betting world that have taken the UK gambling community by storm. In the past, bets had to be placed with bookies, where the punter would back a team or entity and the bookie would lay the bet. In this system, the bookie would lay the bet backed by the punter and offer the odds. Betting ...Animals, Fitness and Us “Do you ever hear of animals gratifying their desire or need for artificial exercising at a gymnasium?” asks Joseph H. Pilates, developer of the Pilates Method, in his book “Your Health”.When I first read this I imagined my dog Wendy saying, “Of course not! How boring! Why would anyone want to spend hours on a treadmill or lifting weight ...Handicapping the Pacers Trade of Ron Artest - Part 1 The Jerome Bettis “Super Bowl in his last year” press is a great story. But what if Ben Roethlisburger jumped into the stands and ruined everything? That is what the Pacers have had to go through the past year and a half. Indiana’s serious title shots have been obliterated since the Mallace in the Palace incident. How could a team that beat near ...Around Major League Baseball San Francisco: Pitcher Kirk Reuter was upset that he was placed on the DL because of a case odf gout in his big toe. Reuter claimed he'd be ready to pitch this week, but GM Brian Sabean felt otherwise. It's no secret Reuter has been wanting out of SF for awhile, in hopes he can help a contender. But, his $6 Million contract made it hard for the ...Betting Exchanges and Lay Betting - An Introduction Too many gamblers are still living in the ‘dark ages’ and will only ever place a bet with a traditional bookmaker. They either can’t be bothered to learn how the exchanges work or simply don’t realise the features and value that can be had when betting within an exchange environment.Believe me, using a betting exchange is very easy, and ...Spread Betting Basics Spread betting is a complicated venture; the statement is nothing but a popular misconception. Proponents of this form consider it to be real easy, once the new player has understood the concept. It enables you to win or loose money depending on how close off or far you are in your betting. Spread betting can be an exciting way to win or loose m ...Fabroc - A New Intelligent Fabric that Keeps You Warm Protection from the elements is one of the fundamental necessities in life. Exposure to extreme temperatures can be deadly and every year there is an increasing number of outdoor enthusiasts who succumb to extreme weather. New technologies are addressing this problem by devising heated clothing. Fabroc is one of these new technologies -- a po ...Online Gambling Online gambling is hot. In fact there are websites popping up everywhere with new gambling options. Living near a gambling casino is no longer important if for individuals who wish to gamble a lot of money or just a little. You can feel safe in most of these places as well. And, with all of this comes the convenience of being at home or at y ...Living "Successfully" - Spiritual Answers for Modern Day Desires: Part 1 Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my thoughts, and see if any wicked way is in me; and lead me in the way everlastingLet me start by saying that this is not another “How To” article that are so common and successful in today’s world. This series of article’s will try to go much deeper than the “how” and answer the “wh ...Stuey The Kid Ungar: Poker's Card Savant He won $30 million dollars at cards and lost that much and more. He is the only three-time winner of the World Series of Poker. He died broke and alone in a sleazy porn motel between The Strip and Downtown Las Vegas.Stuey “The Kid” Ungar was proud of the fact that Mafia bosses came to his Bar Mitzah. The son of a New York bookmaker who di ...Energy Enhancement, Energy Blockages and The Removal Of Fear The fear of having nothing. The fear of death, even when this is not likely to happen soon, can cause you to take the stupid slave-like path in life.As Jesus Christ said -"Look at all the lilies in the field. They toil not, neither do they spin...." they do not fear.Fear is one of the major symptoms of energy blockages in the Base ...Internet Poker or Welcome to the Crypt You know that our elected officials are not very bright.Prohibition and the Food and Drug Act should have taught us something. Apparently not!On July 11, 2006, one week following the day we celebrate our independence, the US House of Representatives passed H.R. 4411, "The Unlawful Internet Gambling Enforcement Act."The law i ...
|
